StopJealousy

the self help recording

Causes Of Jealousy

Many people will have different answers to this question. Some will think that they are jealous because their partner does things to provoke them. Others will think that the reasons behind their jealousy are left over from a previous relationship; someone else left them after having an affair, and now they think it will happen again.

In truth though, the causes of jealousy are all to do with the person who is feeling jealous. No other person is responsible – and this is why some sufferers find it difficult to get rid of their jealous feelings, because they don’t fully understand the cause.

So let’s look at some of the causes of jealousy in more detail to see what we can learn from them.

Insecurity

Everyone feels insecure from time to time. But if this is part of how you feel on a regular basis, then it can lead to jealousy.

For example, you might feel that your partner is too good for you. You’ll ignore the fact that they are with you and instead focus your attentions on keeping them away from anyone who might be interested in them – despite the fact that they are already in a relationship.

You might actually feel unworthy of this connection with your partner, but ironically by being insecure you will stand more chance of driving them away.

Low self esteem

If you suffer from this you will feel as if you are below most other people. You’ll feel constantly inferior. That’s why you feel jealous when someone smiles at your partner or starts to talk to them for any reason.

Those feelings of jealousy are masking the fact that you think the other person has a real chance with your partner. You automatically see them as being much better than you, and you feel threatened because of it. Some people will actually take hold of their partner and remove them from the situation forcefully in order to get away from the ‘threat’. This is one of the most common causes of jealousy.

Little or no confidence in yourself

We all have differing levels of confidence. Some people look in the mirror and see someone they like. Others look in the mirror and see someone who isn’t worthy of being in a relationship.

People who are confident know that they deserve to be in a good relationship. Furthermore they don’t compare themselves unfavourably with everyone else who walks by. Instead they focus on themselves and their relationship, and make it as good as they possibly can.

In conclusion

There are many reasons why jealousy can rear its head in a relationship, but as you can see all the causes of jealousy are all down to feelings of inferiority on the part of the person who suffers from it. If you recognise yourself here, then you have already done some of the hard work in pulling yourself back from those feelings of jealousy.

No matter what the causes of jealousy are in your relationship, you can solve the problem now if you seek the right solution.